Troy Staton: It bothers you because people are being nosey and insensitive. Next time tell them that you were already married for a couple weeks but your husband died in a freak snow shoveling accident.
Rona Espalin: If you have a good relationship, don't screw it up by throwing a legal contract into it! At least you know that your guy is there because he wants to be. Not many married couples can say that!The reason men "run for the hills" is because usually its the man that has the most to lose. Think about it, even if you cheat on him, if the marriage lasts long enough, he still has to pay you alimony.If you have kids (that men usually don't want), again, he has to pay you. That's enough to make anyone run for the hills....Show more
Cassondra Vanholland: I guess because you wonder what it is that others are seeing that you are not. Why are they questioning it? Well most of the time people ask just because they have nothing else to say or they think it'! s cute or maybe they are just nosey trying to pry into your business.Just remember that you have a great relationship now, without the marriage and if it doesn't pose a problem for you all year long...then there is nothing to do or say about it.When they ask you start to question your feelings and question everything about the relationship! Let me put it this way. Some people go through life never being married, but they have a wonderful stable relationship. Some people have to have that little piece of paper to show that they are someone and that is proof that they have a relationship. Go off your feelings not off of others comments. My sister was in a relationship for 9 years before she got married. They toyed with the idea, but they never actually got married. They have a great marriage now and live life to the fullest!! And remember the questions don't stop after the marriage, next they will be asking "When are you going to have kids?" LOLDon't let prying people get int! o your head and start making you re-evaluate your relationship! ....Show more
Julienne Poplawski: It bothers you because that is how we are brought up. We are raised to believe that a long term relationship should lead to marriage and children. It is a standard that you evaluate your life against. Perhaps you feel like you are missing out because your relationship hasn't evolved to this level. I'm not saying you are missing out, just that maybe you just expect this as normal and it hasn't happened in your life. Or maybe you are just sick of nosy busybodies trying to evaluate your life. If it works for you to not unhappy then just tell them to stick it. ...Show more
Tereasa Sorensen: you should ask him! It is not uncommon, ask him to marry you, then you will see if that is what he really wants.
Dexter Dicostanzo: P.S. Just to add, I do not think a woman should ask a man to marry them. As men, they are already "freaked out" enough about the idea of marriage that when the woman asks, they really want to run for t! he hills! The reason I think a man should ask a woman is because when a man determines that he is ready and really wants the woman, he will do the asking. As women, it seems like we force the issue when we do the proposing and men go through such drama in their heads when it comes to getting married. I don't know why, women end up doing most of the work in the marriage anyway. Men...(especially you freaked out easily types) this question is for you!...Show more
Shon Almquist: It wouldn't be a holiday gathering without someone asking you a personal or inappropriate question, whether it's about your job, career, dress size or portfolio. Some people don't mean to be nosy (it just comes naturally), but it certainly can come across that way, especially when you're not particularly close or see each other once a year at such functions.You're not obligated to share everything When you want people to know, you will tell them! In the meantime here are some answers you can us! e to the question "When are you going to get married?" Depends. "Still ! working on it" works. So does "I'm having a great time being single, so it's not an urgent thing for me."?" "Why do you want to know?" Or, "When Prince/Princess Charming finds me.""When I tire from indiscriminate sex with strangers." Or, if you really want to end the conversation: "I don't believe in marriage." ...Show more
Salvatore Walls: Maybe it bothers you because you don't feel as if you are good enough for a guy or the guy to want to marry you. Some men are as you described but not all of us. You want to feel loved and nurtured as does a lot of women and men too. I'm not easily freaked out as you put it by the way. Oh, and not all women do most of the work in a marriage by the way. But I get the drift. Someday you will be married and look back on these old times. Just give it time and before you know it you will be married with children wondering why you ever got married...(just kidding)...Show more
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